Explanation need or need not?

Well I would say that life isn't just about growing up and learning all sorts of knowledge. 

It's also about giving explanation and receiving explanation. 

Let's first talk about EXPLANATION. 

Before all of these, why don't we think upon, in the first place, why is explanation needed? And whom do we dedicate all these explanation? 

LOL it seems a little bit legit. But it's a question worth squeezing our brain juice for. 

We spend a lot of our time explaning. 

We give explanation about our motives, our thoughts and what not. 

We explain so that people could understand us. 

We want to make the situation clear. 

We want the people involve to look at the real matter by him/her self but not simply listen to all those third parties.

We hate misunderstanding. 

We dislike miscommunication. 

But once in a while. 

I wondered. 

Why do we need to explain to those who decided to doubt us? 

Okay you may say that I am stubborn cause I hold too much to my own principles. 

But it's my life and it's my principles. 

After all you are just one of those thousands or millions of passer bys in my life.

Few more years later I can't even recognize you if you pass by me in a crowded place. 

That's true. 

So why do I get myself so overwhelmed when some one misunderstand me? 

Nay That's Not Necessary Miss Mei. 

Don't bring yourself unneeded trouble yo. 

So now we had enough of giving explanation, now let's talk about accepting explanation. 

This is something sentimental. 

First, we human being was placed as the top of all living creatures because we have the ability to think and we could development so fast and so well. 

But no matter how we development we can't be fair and just. 

For how many centuries that human of all races chose not being fair but sided at the more favor side. 

Example 1. 

You know your best friend was at fault in a fight with others. But you will still be sided her cause she is your BEST friend. 

Example 2. 

As the headmaster, you know that student A could perform better but you favor student B more and since they are almost the same , you give it to B. 

Clear enough. 

In a second level thinking, no matter how comprehensible your explanation is, as long as the receiver is not by your side, it's like sea water waving by the beach- not even a shit left. 

Yea life is unfair. 

So you don't have to explain. 

In the same time you have the right not to accept any explanation. 

Live as long as you are happy. 

Life is so short why do you need to bother at those unneeded questions? 

A friend in need is a ...

This is a statement so common that even primary school kids are using it like mad. 

A friend in need is a friend indeed. 

This is what I got from wikiditionary and I love the definition 

"A TRUE FRIEND IS ONE WHO HELPS YOU WHEN YOU ARE IN NEED. "

From my very own experience I love this proverb. 

When I was younger I think that there are a few conditions that we must get through before we could unlock the BFFL Badge (Best-Friend-For-Life). 

1. TOGETHERNESS

We went through all the thick and thin moments together. Laughing over the particular dowdy teacher, tell them the guy whom I currently fall for ( which most of the time their jaws drop as they can never comprehend why I would fall for those SPECIAL guys). The extent which we could share things could amaze you cause basically we share everything. And this togetherness not only by it's surface meaning that we do everything together but it also escalated to another level which we remember everyone's habit and their signature body language. It's never exaggerate to say what I could imagine how you would respond when you encounter a particular situation. 

Well sometimes bad things could strengthen our relationship, too. You fight with your BFFL, a lot. You might want to deny that for now but who knows maybe in the future you might have an argument with them, let it be big or small, a fight is a fight. I quarrel with my BFFL a lot. Sometimes it's because of miscommunication and misunderstanding. We had Cold War and we talk nothing to each other but now our friendship grew so strong that even we are a world apart she is not away from my life. 

2. WAVELENGTH and FREQUENCY 

When it's about friendship, time does matter however compability does count as well. 

When we were young we could somehow change a little to match better with our friend but this turn out very tough as we grew older. Indirectly meaning that when we wanna look for BFFL after we had our personality and thinkng fixed , it's solely depends on our wavelength and frequency. 

"Do we have the same hertz? "

When I start talking about A and suddenly jump to G. Please make sure you got me right and not looking at me with a goody eyes. 

Or when I make some weird statements and actions which I expect you to give me the same respond but you eventually didn't. 

Eherm. 

Sorry but let's be acquaintances. 

3. MUTUAL BENEFITS 

The first and second points are something sincere and it could rarely happen as we grow older. Grow older as in we have our own thinking and most of the time we are selfish. After all no one is going to bear for all your losses and care for all of your feelings. 

"It did happen but it's so rare. " 

So when you could find someone (as a friend) who bring you no harm while in the same time you needed them. 

Why not? 

But please don't say that I am being materialistic individualistic or what not. I just want to be frank with you. 

I do treat them as my BFFL too! ( I mean it when I say it! *seriousface)

However these BFFL went through different processes with the BFFL who undergoes process 1 and 2. 

Just a matter of PROCESSes but as a matter of fact they don't have any differences.  

4. OPPOTUNITY - FATE 

You encounter the right person, at the right time, in the right place. 

You need not to know her for a very long time. However you just need to know them at a correct timing. 

I have a few BFFL like this. 

:) 

5: ACCEPTANCE 

This is one of the element to let you know whether he/she is your BFFL. 

You will NEVER EVER get jealous of her. 

Seriously. 

If one day you found yourself feeling jealous or even envy at your so said BFFL , I am sorry. 

She is actually not or I should say you never treated her as one. 

You feel happy for her when she able to get something so great which you can't get it. You feel happy for her instead of murmuring 'why didn't I get it?' 

You sincerely feel sorry for her when anything wrong happen to her. You don't feel sorry just for the sake of feeling sorry but you feel like as if the same thing happen to you. 

You willing to accept all of her flaws but the fact is you can't find any flaw from her. 

"I see you as a perfect figure." 

A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED. 

I had once feeling so sad so desperate so emo and I almost bursted into tears when I was driving. 

I am the one in need. I need someone who will be there indeed. 

The message that I really want to convey in this post is that, 

You don't need a whole bunch of friend, that's acquaintances. 

You love to have a few who is always there, that's for life. 

A special acknowledgement to all my BFFLs, 

I thanked you for bearing with all my flaws. 

I thanked you for being with me even I always bog you with stupid problems of mine. 

I love you as much as you love me but I will never show it. 

*crookedsmile 

I am not a young mommy yo

I always believe that raising a child is wonderful and amazing. I used to contemplate the moments when I have my own children and what I would do to raise them. 

However I had never know that what happened this evening happened. 

Where people passing by staring at me and some asked me politely, 

" Where's your child's room number?"

I just smile and I answered, 

"No. I am waiting for someone. "

I actually wonder what would they actually think if I just simply blurted out a room number.

Fuiyoh YOUNG MOMMY YO! 

Siting in the entrance of children's ward for 3 hours makes me ponder about some thoughts. 

I think I will be excited hell if I have my own child. Cause it's definitely like THE OTHER ME. lol 

I don't know it's miserable or not when I saw one family came and visit their ailing family member ( who obviously is a child since I am in paediatic ward). Grandma , father, mother, elder sister and younger brother who is warded. The father help to carry some bags into the room and he came out and sat at the entrance, playing his phone, leaving his wife and mom to take care of the children. Feeding phone and pampering them. 

Young kids surrounds me and they run and they yell and they laugh. Some of them fall but soon they stand up and start playing with other kids again. 

And of the touchiest moment I saw was. 

A 2 years kid walking alone with her mom standing behind her. But she obviously forgot about her mother. She runs so fast and the smile on her face so broad and bright. She runs for few seconds then she wanted her mother. She turned, and there go her mom, standing there with a open arm, smiling. 

What else do you want when you already have someone who always stand behind you and welcome you with a warm embrace and sweet smiles? 

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